Meme for a foggy Friday morning

oing what I'm told, yep. A blogger I follow, Cha Cha at noodleroux, posted this meme a week or so back and invited her readers to steal it. So here I go, on this still, gray (and yes, still-gray) Friday morning, as I get ready for a conference call to a meeting in Seattle that I'm supposed to BE at, but there was no plane to fly out on this morning... the joys of small town/small airport/big fog living!

What is your idea of perfect happiness?
My men and I on vacation, with sunshine.

What is your greatest fear?
Dying in great physical pain. Torture.

What is the trait you most deplore in yourself?
Smugness.

What is the trait you most deplore in others?
Negativity.

What is your favorite journey?
Life.

On what occasion do you lie?
Really try not to. Learned a long time ago that honesty works best for sleeping at night and looking in the mirror in the morning. So don't ask me if those pants make your butt look big, please.

Which words or phrases do you most overuse?
Good. Sometimes even twice (so I've been informed), as in: Good good.

Which living person do you most despise?
No one comes to mind. I'm pretty sure there are some tyrannical leaders of third-world countries that I have some hate for, but no one in a 100-mile radius.

What is your greatest regret?
Being too opinionated at times, not being open enough to a change of plans or diversity of thought. Not being teachable.

Which talent would you most like to have?
I'd really like to be able to sing beautifully and effortlessly. But I consider it an act of God to keep me humble that I sing so-so (on a good day) and best in a group.

If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
To be more realistic some days... less boundless optimism.

What is it that you most dislike?
Negative self-talk. Not in me, of course. Others.

What is your most treasured possession?
Little trinkets Seth has made for me over the years. My wedding ring.

What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery?
Addiction.

What is your most marked characteristic?
Probably that boundless optimism I mentioned earlier.

What is the quality you most like in a man?
Character. And kind eyes.

What is the quality you most like in a woman?
Companionability. Is that a word?

What do you most value in your friends?
Loyalty.

How would you like to die?
In my sleep. When I'm 99. (Aim high! Boundless optimism!)

What is your motto?
It changes often. Right now it is: What will you do with your one wild and precious life? --Mary Oliver

Your turn! Feel free to post to your own blog, or answer in the comments.